So I’ve been watching “Making a Murderer” and the bit that really stuck with me (aside from the terrible situation that is the American justice system) was when Dean Strang said that people needed to show a bit more humility.
He basically says the police, the attorneys and the judge and jurors all need to realise they’re not infallible.
It’s probably a weird connection to make, but my brain instantly said “like referees”.
Now, I’m not one for throwing people under the bus and that’s not what I’m doing here. I’m just pointing out that we’re not perfect. We all make mistakes. But you should be willing to accept that rather than refusing to concede that MAYBE you got it wrong.
Since stopping skating I have spent a lot of time doing off-skates coaching, giving feedback and watching referees from a fresh outsider angle. I don’t know if I simply wasn’t privvy to it before, but I’ve really noticed how many refs will refuse to listen to eachother, or, and this is a more common one… listen to non-officials.
We see ourselves as the rules-know-it-alls, but damn, the rules are public knowledge. I have spoken to skaters who have out-rules’d me on a few occasions. It isn’t a bizarre occurrence. It happens. Learn some humility and move on. It doesn’t make you a crap referee if you admit that you got a call wrong. It does make you a bad referee if you refuse to learn and insist you’re right.
There have been times when I have thought the unwillingness to discuss, to compromise, to negotiate… the bloody-mindedness of it is just unbearably embarrassing to witness.
While I’m on the subject of lacking humility, if you’re applying for a position in a tournament, don’t take the opportunity to be a cocky bastard on the application form.
It’s an application form for God’s sake.
If you’re rude, disrespectful, and demanding… no right-minded person would put you a crew. You’re clearly going to be difficult to work with.
Remember you’re asking for a position amongst peer competition… Be humble. Be honest. Be professional. Or be rejected.